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Dear Lil A

Dear Lil A

9 months out in the world after 9 months in! How has it been so far? Would you rate it 5 stars? This month you visited 4 countries - Austria, Hungary, Slovakia and Czech Republic. Your mom failed you on the no sweet and salt rule till 1 year and let you croissants and ice cream I'm sorry but in my defense it was either give it to you or...

Continue Reading 21 Jul 2023
How to get Saudi Driving License (for Expat Ladies)

How to get Saudi Driving License (for Expat Ladies)

I’ve been meaning to get the Saudi driving license since late 2018 but didn’t get around to it because life (and the long waiting time in the first few years). After hearing about my friends wait for months to get an appointment I was quite discouraged and didn’t think I’d get a license any time soon. But this summer I made up my mind that I had to get the...

Continue Reading 13 Jul 2023
Dear Lil A

Dear Lil A

My 8th letter to you has been delayed by 2 days thanks to the fever that’s been the uninvited guest for the last week. Happy 8th month! I’m sorry you have to deal with the discomfort of fever and rashes.. it really sucks to see you this way and not be able to do anything.

Continue Reading 23 Jun 2023
Dear Lil A

Dear Lil A

Say hello to month 7!

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Dear Lil A

Dear Lil A

I’m a week late in writing your 6th letter because of how crazy busy it has been. Welcome to month 6 my darling boy. How are you already half a year old?!

Continue Reading 09 Apr 2023
Dear Lil A

Dear Lil A

How are you 5 months already? Seems like just yesterday I was counting your kicks from inside. You are growing so fast that I’m afraid to blink. I don’t want to miss anything. What an eventful month this has been. We spent 2 weeks in India and from knowing only us you got the chance to meet dozens of your relatives back home. Grand uncles and aunties and cousins galore....

Continue Reading 22 Mar 2023
Dear Lil A

Dear Lil A

Dear Lil A, Happy 4 months to you! I’m a day late because yesterday you had your first flight out to visit the motherland for the first time. Welcome to kerala! I can see you are already loving the breeze and trees here. You are scream-babbling a lot more now that you are with your grandparents. So what happened in the last one month? Well you had your first road...

Continue Reading 26 Feb 2023

Dear Lil A

Say hello to month 3! As always I’m in awe of how fast the time slips by. You’re a full on baby! This month you started getting really chatty. I’m loving the conversations we have late at night. This month you mostly slept through the day and stayed up happily cooing away at night. I powered through flu and sleep deprivation to stay awake with you because my mom brain...

Continue Reading 21 Jan 2023

Dear Lil A

Congratulations on finishing month 2 earthside. How’s it been so far? Is the milk good and are the cuddles warm enough? From our side we give it 5 stars because we think you are just the best baby ever, alongside your sis Z. But we might be biased.

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Dear Baby Z,

When did you learn how to fly? Cause it sure looks like you have taken off. Today marks 8 months of me as a mom and you as my little side plum.

Continue Reading 02 Feb 2019

Live and love

This time in Uganda is different.

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The ten year challenge reminded me of this from a few years ago

We moved to Jeddah for a year when I was in 11th grade (ten years ago). One of the first things you have to do on arriving is apply for an iqama (resident permit). And apart from medical check ups and lots of forms, you also need to submit some photos. You all know my aversion to any photo taken for official purposes. I have been cursed for life, there...

Continue Reading 17 Jan 2019

Seeing My Mother Through Different Eyes

Growing up I used to dread the PTA meetings. Not because I was a poor student-I was stellar, even if I say so myself :D- but because my mother would come to the meetings. My mom was and continues to be a dedicated parent. She was always there, through all the meetings and sports coaching and tournaments and fancy dress competitions. She picked out poems for my recitation competitions and...

Continue Reading 08 Jan 2019

Road tripping with parents

My family is a family of seasoned road trippers. We’ve lived out of boxes all our lives so a few days on the road doesn’t faze us. The earliest road trips I remember are from when I was around 7 or 8 when my parents would bundle the three of us in our hideously green omni van and go to the India’s famous northeastern vacation spot- Darjeeling. The rickety metallic...

Continue Reading 08 Jan 2019

Dear Papa and Mamma,

Tell me, which day was it that you assigned my future for me? What about me made you feel that I can be a good doctor? Was it written on my forehead when I came out of your womb, ma?

Continue Reading 08 Jan 2019

The dam inside my mind

The dam inside my mind, which has been holding in all the ideas and inspiration for some time now, has begun leaking, threatening to burst. I wake up thinking about something to write about and go to bed with another interesting idea. Sometimes I get an idea as I am stirring the curry, at other times as I am nursing my daughter to sleep.

Continue Reading 06 Jan 2019

To Madina.

One of the hardest things about growing up is leaving your parents to live somewhere else. It wasn’t easy when i was 18 and in college and not easy 8 yrs later with a fresh baby in my arms. Nothing compares to the warmth and security one is enveloped in when in the presence of their parents. So two months back when they planned to visit us here in Saudi,...

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Dear Baby Z,

You are 7 months old today. You are now a full fledged baby, congratulations!

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A bit late

A bit late in putting up my 2018 reflections post but better late than never eh?

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When I was younger

When I was younger, people in their 20s awed me. They seemed young but not immature like teens my age. And they were not old fashioned like our parents generation. 20s was like the sweet spot where you are youthful AND mature AND hep. I could not wait to foray into it myself and taste a little bit of the fun.

Continue Reading 20 Dec 2018

The transition into motherhood

The transition into motherhood is exciting and nerve wracking all at once. It changes you in many ways. It makes you uber emotional- laughing one moment and trying not to tear up the next because le husband bought the wrong flavor of ice cream (true story).

Continue Reading 10 Dec 2018

6 months of motherhood: Taking Stock

I have always loved babies. What’s not to love about these cuddly little cuties (except during their projectile poop phases) who are nature’s live stress busters. My love for them was only marred briefly post marriage when random aunties, uncles, and strangers would ask me when I plan to pop one out. It put me off babies and I’d hold myself from cooing too much at a baby for fear...

Continue Reading 05 Dec 2018

Dear Baby Z

You are half a year old today! I can’t believe you are six months already. It’s as though you were a fragile lil new born just yesterday. Now you are a babbling baby brimming with energy and giggles. .

Continue Reading 02 Dec 2018

Why do we do it our kids?

Imagine you go to a new city with your family. You are having a great time with them. All of a sudden a stranger comes and picks you up. You are bewildered because you don’t know this person. You try to tell them to leave you alone but they don’t understand your language. Instead they laugh at you as your protests grow louder. You aren’t comfortable because they are holding...

Continue Reading 28 Nov 2018

7 things to teach your kids to raise independent and confident boys and girls

7 things to teach your kids to raise independent and confident boys and girls

Continue Reading 22 Nov 2018

Dear Baby Z...

Congratulations on your 5th month on planet Earth. Hope you are enjoying your stay with mamma and uppa. It’s getting quite obvious now that you are a photocopy of your dad. And it’s also quite clear that you are a daddy’s girl and have him wrapped around your cute Lil pinky. ????

Continue Reading 02 Nov 2018

My father is a "connector".

I want to share with you one of the most important things I learned from my father (after decades of him trying to teach it to me). It’s something I actively resisted for years only to now find myself doing exactly that.

Continue Reading 25 Oct 2018

We are with you

When I was in 10th grade our class got a new class teacher. Priyanka mam. Ours was an Islamic school in Bangalore and she was one of the few non Muslim teachers. She was newly married and had just moved from Lucknow to be with her husband who she adored.

Continue Reading 18 Oct 2018

Meanwhile, here's my grandma saying peace out.

She is a peculiar character, my velliamma. From the time I remember she was fond of keeping a jar of candy or toffee next to her bed. One of the many habits she shed with age. I remember her asking me to buy packets of mangobite, Coffee bite, or melody, if she was in a mood for it. She made it a point to call us all to her room...

Continue Reading 05 Oct 2018

Dear Baby Z,

You have been earth side for four months now. Four months of making our days better. You have made your parents tired but better people ????

Continue Reading 02 Oct 2018

Dear Baby Z,

You are three months old today! Where did the time fly? You are no longer the wee little thing I was scared to hold because of how fragile you were. By God’s grace you are a strong healthy girl I can more confidently carry around, especially since your neck is no longer like a spring. I can finally use the ring sling to wear you around! We are getting more...

Continue Reading 02 Sep 2018

Circles Of Love

I don’t remember a time before my younger brother was born. All my childhood memories have him firmly attached to it. That’s not the case with my youngest brother though. I have memories in which he is not there. I was six when he was born and I still clearly remember when I was told that I have another baby brother.

Continue Reading 01 Sep 2018

Reasons I think you should / shouldn't be getting married for

Reasons I think you should be getting married for :

Continue Reading 27 Aug 2018

Just the way you are.

I’ve had a love hate relationship with my body. With my teenage years riddled with a lot of insecurities and acceptance and self love gradually seeping in in the later years.

Continue Reading 10 Aug 2018

EVERY DAMN PERSON WOULD FAIL

If there existed a mandatory aptitude and competence test to become a parent, human life would cease to exist. Because EVERY DAMN PERSON WOULD FAIL. No coaching, no book, no podcast can prepare you for parenthood. The only way you can test being a parent is by actually becoming one. With a real kid.

Continue Reading 08 Aug 2018

Dear Baby Z,

You are two months today!

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Three years of marriage

Of getting on each other’s nerves

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Motherhood is guilt!

Motherhood is guilt. After overwhelming, overpowering love, guilt is what defines motherhood. I did not expect it to hit me with such force. I mean I’d read about it from other women and witnessed my own mom torment herself with it for things she had no control over, like our health issues. But I still didnt expect it to hit me with such force from day 1. Small bump on...

Continue Reading 20 Jul 2018

Dear Baby Z,

After 42 days in your home country you have come to another land. To a home where you won’t really be ever fully “at home”. You are too young to notice, but these temporary reunions and farewells with loved ones are probably going to be a part of your life for some time. I don’t know how I can prepare you for something that’s going to be fulfilling and heart...

Continue Reading 14 Jul 2018

Dear Baby Z,

You are a month old today. Not a new born anymore!It is fascinating watching you. I can spend my whole day looking at you, your tiny fingers and toes, your puckered lips and small chin. Your chubbier by the day cheeks call out to be bitten!

Continue Reading 02 Jul 2018

What's changed since having a little human come into my life?

My schedule. It’s not until you are bang in the middle of it that you realize how much physical, emotional, and mental space these tiny little things occupy. Reminders that she is now in our lives are scattered across the house, from cloth diapers and swaddles hung up to dry indoors (since the Sun is playing hide and seek with Kerala) to gifts from friends and family to her purple...

Continue Reading 30 Jun 2018

Dear Baby Z,

Today you turn one week old.

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You aren't alone in these choppy waters.

Some days can be more overwhelming than others. Especially when you are bang in the middle of adulting. There’s bills to pay and chores to do and deadlines to meet. As if that’s not enough there’s also the intricate web of relationships that you need to carefully maintain.

Continue Reading 25 Mar 2018

Sanskari Guide to Sanskari Cooking

Sanskari Guide to Sanskari Cooking

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We are all drowning in this ocean

Sometimes life, instead of giving us lemons like it is supposed to, becomes sadistic and hands us acid in pretty bottles. It then stands back and watches while we burn ourselves and those around us. With lemons we could have at least made lemon pickles, but what do we do with acid other than gulp it down like vodka shots?

Continue Reading 04 Dec 2017

Oh what fun times.

I have this thing for diaries. And journals. And fancy notepads. Anything with pages. I’ve had it since my childhood. In my tweens I wanted that time’s rage- the diary with a lock. Because my tweenage secrets obviously require maximum safety and protected from brother called beings. I never got that diary, but I did invent a secret language so I can write without fear. It was just a chart...

Continue Reading 13 Oct 2017

The world is drained of its color

There’s a kind of tiredness that reaches the very core of your bones. It coils around your veins and settles comfortably in every free crevice it finds. If you don’t pay attention it can creep into your mind and make you emotionally and mentally tired. Once that happens it’s like the world is drained of its color and there’s nothing in it that can cheer you up.

Continue Reading 10 Oct 2017

My story

Growing up I don’t remember having too many clothes or shoes or accessories. But it wasn’t a point of sorrow for us kids because we had other things- books, road trips, train trips, good food, and… Sports. My father was and continues to be a sports enthusiast. He hates seeing us sit idle (it’s another thing that I still turned out to be a sloth, instead of a human). When...

Continue Reading 16 Sep 2017

'I WILL ADJUST IT?!'

Y’all asked for my awful but funny in hindsight eyebrow story, so here you have it.

Continue Reading 12 Sep 2017

I was always an awkward skinny kid

I was always an awkward skinny kid. Couple that with my height (I’m tall by Indian standards) and there were more than enough jokes by well meaning uncles and aunts on how they can use me as a stick (thotti- a long think stick/bamboo pole) to pluck fruits from high branches.

Continue Reading 11 Sep 2017

Chai. Tea

It was towards the end of fall, when copper corpses of leaves lined most roads, that I bought the first packet of tea for myself. I was in London, doing my Masters, and for the first time beginning to understand what ‘biting cold’ really meant. I needed something to warm me up and remind me of home. Since cooking was out of question back then, I turned to the next...

Continue Reading 10 Sep 2017

Here's to swallowing our pride and learning to accept criticism that helps us grow.

There’s a lot of talk these days of cutting off negative people from your life because they kill your vibe. I am all for the ‘You don’t need this kind of negativity in your life’ line of thought if what we are talking about is toxic relationships and people who are out to pull you down. But that’s the extent to which I will support it. I don’t think you...

Continue Reading 06 Sep 2017

Part of growing up is realising you were scared of the silliest things.

I still remember my primary school ‘aayah’. She used to sit at the same spot everyday and monitor the kids during the lunch break. We had this tree in our school courtyard with tasty berries on them, I don’t know what they are called. My friends and I used to pluck the low hanging ripe ones and gorge on them. Apparently they weren’t supposed to be plucked by students (just...

Continue Reading 23 Aug 2017

the desi community!

‘But I am only trying to help,’ she says after a particularly mean comment that she knows will hurt you.

Continue Reading 19 Aug 2017

A man with dreams needs a woman with vision

When I first met le husband and wanted to know more about him I turned to the best investigation tool for desis- Facebook. I stealthily stalked him to find out more about him. In the process, one of the post he shared resonated with me and made it easier to say yes to him later. It went- “A man with dreams needs a woman with vision. Her perspective, faith, and...

Continue Reading 18 Aug 2017

Chai!

My father has been a tea addict since way before I existed. He used to drink 4-5 cups a day. It’s probably a family thing. My grandma would prepare a full flask of black tea (kattan) the night before my uncle’s exams to help him pull an all nighter. My uncle would dutifully finish the last drop of tea and then go to sleep.

Continue Reading 08 Aug 2017

"Where's your colour?"

My grandma has a lot of hobbies. Like collecting old plastic ice cream cups, talking about the old times, giving us 100 Rupees as pocket money… Here I talk about a very amusing one. She likes to browse through old albums, pause at my baby pictures and say “Molku enthu nirram endayirinnu, ippo adokke pozhi”. Literal translation: You had so much colour, everything’s gone now. What She really means: You...

Continue Reading 02 Aug 2017

Embarrassment and fear of falling!

Embarrassment and fear of falling is what keeps the majority of us from trying something new and rising to new heights. And this embarrassment, which hinders our success, is something we develop later on in life. Okay, don’t roll your eyes. Hear me out.

Continue Reading 28 Jul 2017

specs !

I was 13 yrs old and just about to start 7th grade when I got my first pair of spectacles. I remember being super thrilled because I thought it made me look cool. (it didn’t)

Continue Reading 24 Jul 2017

period

Someone I know told me that when her mother got her first period, she thought she had blood cancer and was dying. So instead of informing her parents, her mother thought why worry them when she’s dying anyway, and walked around for a week bleeding on things till her mother spotted some stains and explained what was happening to her.

Continue Reading 15 Jul 2017

What's Home?

I haven’t lived long enough anywhere for my roots to go deep in and intertwine around the little things that make a place home. Home for me has been a concept that constitutes people rather than houses or places. With my mom, dad, and brothers, I’ve called places from the east to the west my home.

Continue Reading 10 Jul 2017

Family

There’s a part of you that never grows up. One which yearns affection and care and protection always. In your childhood you had your parents cater to that part. And then one day the rug is pulled from under your feet and in an instant you are thrust into adulthood. Suddenly there’s no one to look out for you, no one to tell you what to do and what not...

Continue Reading 08 Jul 2017

I walked into marriage

I walked into marriage ready to become (or at least act like) a grown up. I own a human now! I mustered all the grace and femininity I could and told myself BE A LADY!

Continue Reading 21 Jun 2017

What you have in this moment is a MASSIVE blessing

If there’s one thing you must remember about life it’s that its unstable. It doesn’t give two hoots about what you are, what colour your skin is, how much money there’s in your account, or how many degrees there are with your name on it.

Continue Reading 07 Jun 2017

Weekends have changed so much over the time for me.

When we were younger, and my dad was still in the Air Force, weekends were for family walks. Well, almost the whole family, because the youngest one in our family was the only one brave enough to say no to my dad when he woke us up early in the morning. He’d curl back to sleep under the comfy blanket while Shereef and I grudgingly went with mom and dad...

Continue Reading 30 May 2017

Shall I tell you the secret of everlasting peace that never leaves your side? It took me some time but I've almost arrived at the secret formula. What is it?

It’s knowing that life is going to keep hurling (not giving) lemons at you. Not just you, but every single person who lives on this beautiful blue planet. And these lemons are not all the same size. Some are big. Some are little but sour. Some are yellow and many. One thing remains constant though, every one us has been pelted by these lemons at some point in our lives....

Continue Reading 30 May 2017

Ramadan

Ramadan is around the corner again! Naturally, Muslims around the globe are excited about this month and eager to welcome it. Some of my non Muslim friends might be confused as to why we are so excited about a month where we basically keep off food and water for a good chunk of the day. I have been asked this question a few times before so I thought I’d write...

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mamimma

My mamimma and Uppapa have been married for more than 55 years.

Continue Reading 27 Apr 2017

What's that made of us?

Our society’s priorities are weird. It places more importance on ticking off the predetermined checkboxes (made by itself) at the earliest possible,than enjoy the state/phase of being you are at. It’s made these arbitrary timelines that determine birth, education, marriage, kids, and so on. It’s like Amazing Race on AXN and we are the participants who are supposed to rush from one stop to another. Got born? Now you run...

Continue Reading 20 Apr 2017

Aromas From Home

I grew up in a Nomadic family. Well, almost. Having a parent work in the armed forces meant living out of the boxes throughout our childhood. My memories are like a huge geographical collage; a few snaps from West Bengal, some from Maharashtra, tit bits from Karnataka- you get the picture. In all these trips and stays my siblings and I subconsciously internalized a lot of what we saw, and...

Continue Reading 17 Apr 2017

So yeah, I am REALLY imperfect. ????

Perfect human beings don’t interest me.

Continue Reading 11 Mar 2017

SO. DAMN. MUCH.

I was in the car the other day when I had this light bulb go off in my head. Not with an idea, but an illuminating realisation. Embarrassment and fear of falling is what keeps the majority of us from trying something new and rising to new heights. And this embarrassment, which hinders our success, is something we develop later on in life. Okay, don’t roll your eyes. Hear me...

Continue Reading 10 Mar 2017

Today is my birthday.

Today is my birthday. I’ve had one more round on earth, on this never ending merry-go-round around the sun. The last couple of rounds- birthdays- I have found myself in different phases. One as a naive undergrad, the other as a struggling post grad working a job and studying, the next as a new bride learning the ropes of marriage, and now as a professional working to ‘have it all’....

Continue Reading 07 Mar 2017

crazy mixture!

One of my many pet peeves is uber talkative taxi drivers. You know the ones who start talking once you enter the taxi and won’t stop even when you try to get rid of them with the fare. When I was studying in Malaysia I had to put up with so many such rides that I have borderline taxiphobia. One more ‘teksi’ ride with a human radio and I would...

Continue Reading 06 Mar 2017

childhood memories

One of my fondest childhood memories is one where I snuggle next to my Mammimma (grandaunt) and listen to her tell me the same story every night during our stays with her in the summer breaks. We slept in a large room where all the ladies and children of the house slept. Four beds lie parallel to each wall and in the middle a large rug was spread out for...

Continue Reading 04 Mar 2017

Time and again

I find myself wondering why writers write. What is it that makes us gather words and attempt to weave them into coherence, sometimes even against their will?I can’t speak for all writers, but for me three words come to mind- To make sense. Of things/people/events/the world. Not to others, but to myself.

Continue Reading 02 Mar 2017

The kitchen is her laboratory

The best thing about being born into a Desi household is that you can actually live your life without ever seeing a doctor. No, not because you never fall sick, it’s because there is no bacteria, virus, or cell mutation that can escape the healing hands of the Desi mom, aunt, and grandmom.

Continue Reading 27 Feb 2017

10 Life Lessons For My Younger Self

Dear younger me,

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Be your own biggest well-wisher

My uncle recently had a wheelchair run over his foot. It hurt his leg badly and he was in severe pain. He was unable to walk. He finally took some painkillers to ease the pain. The pain was numbed, so he began walking again instead of resting his leg. The wound hadn’t healed yet so his foot began to swell and he had to finally stop walking for sometime and...

Continue Reading 19 Feb 2017

I have a confession.

Sometimes, when someone says something hurtful to me, I freeze. I can’t open my mouth and protect myself. Then before I know it tears are streaming down my cheeks. The person who said those things would have moved on and I would still be left going over it in my mind. Thinking of the hundred different ways I could have responded. Maybe I should have said something insulting back? Maybe...

Continue Reading 17 Feb 2017

Next!

When I was in 1st grade I used to look at the 3rd grade kids in awe and wonder when I could achieve their coolness. They were reading entire stories! When I reached 3rd grade I realised it wasn’t that great and I actually just want to get to 5th grade where we get to write with pens instead of pencils! My friends and I used to dream about being...

Continue Reading 14 Feb 2017

My siblings and I

I don’t remember a time before my younger brother was born. All my childhood memories have him firmly attached to it. That’s not the case with my youngest brother though. I have memories in which he is not there. I was six when he was born and I still clearly remember when I was told that I have another baby brother. I still remember rolling his name around my tongue,...

Continue Reading 11 Feb 2017

The World' and Leaving Our Mark

Today I was feeling unusually down and depressed. You know that vulnerable state you find yourself in every now and then, where you don’t know what’s happening and can’t figure out how to make it hurt less? Yeah that. I remembered this piece I’d written a few months back and turned to it for comfort.

Continue Reading 07 Feb 2017

oh I don't know- DRAMA?

More than two decades ago, in an unknown hospital in a dusty town Kerala, I was delivered. With the first scent of the drama that my life if going to be, my little self launched into a long, tortured cry which was mistaken by the doctors to be a normal slap-a-baby’s-butt-to-make her-cry cry.

Continue Reading 06 Feb 2017

And when I was about to leave that last stretch of beautiful sky behind,

There are some moments in life which are so vivid that they etch themselves into your being. Moments so fleeting that if you’d chosen to blink instead you would have missed them altogether. They dawn on you when you least expect it, at the most insignificant of times, following no particular pattern.

Continue Reading 03 Feb 2017

How many more children's spirits will we sacrifice at the altar of "education"? What have we done? What are we doing?

Most people are surprised when I tell them that by 12th grade I’d studied in 10 different schools. Yes, 10 schools. From fancy Air Force schools to Kendriya Vidyalayas that have students from all classes, religions and backgrounds to a state-syllabus school in Karnataka to an Indian embassy school in ‘the Gulf’, I have seen most of what our system has to offer. And I’m sad to say that it...

Continue Reading 31 Jan 2017

One who knows it all. I am free.

The sea sways impatiently as it waits for the sun to set, sending wave after wave rolling to the shore. It waits for them to meet, even if for a brief moment. And finally the sun descends and comes close, almost kissing, until it slips behind the horizon, leaving the sea with a demanding moon instead.

Continue Reading 29 Jan 2017

Here are somethings you don't know about me

I’m 5’6 tall (a female giraffe by desi standards). My favourite colour is all shades of blue. I LOVE chocolates, specifically galaxy flutes, so much so that since we’ve been together my husband HAS to buy me one every weekend (if he didn’t keep a check I would have indulged everyday). I am a bit of a day dreamer, have walked into a trash can once while daydreaming. I love...

Continue Reading 25 Jan 2017

Nomadic childhood

A by-product of a nomadic childhood is that you never have one specific “home”. Although we visited kerala every year during vacations and eventually even returned to settle down there, I never really saw it as MY home. It was home in the sense that there was family there, but I do not have any other sentimental attachment to that place. I recently read a piece by Pico Iyer about...

Continue Reading 29 Dec 2016

Love, Your mother

Dear Child,

Continue Reading 28 Dec 2016

Profile of a Granduncle

My granduncle (uppapa) is one of the most charming and inspiring person I know. Now 85, he’s one of the most energetic people around. At 6ft, my uppapa stands tall in my childhood memories. I remember him as someone who’s always on the move, always occupied. For the brief moments he was not doing something, or helping someone out, or treating his patients, he could be found relaxing in the...

Continue Reading 24 Dec 2016

It is time we celebrate us, the perfectly imperfect ones.

erfect human beings don’t interest me.

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One day I want to see

One day I want to see myself on the screen and in the pages of best selling books. Me or someone like me. Not there as a caricature or a token character. Not there merely to be the head on which rests the hijab added for diversity. Not there to show how certain cultures oppress their women so the rest should gloat. Not there to evoke sympathy and be saved...

Continue Reading 15 May 2016

MOVING BEYOND MOTHERHOOD

In her lifetime a woman takes on a range of roles. However, it’s her roles which are in relation to others (most of the time men) that she is asked to live up to the most. Countless are the articles which go “A women is a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother so….”. My gripe is with the word ‘so’ here. It makes the respect that a woman deserves...

Continue Reading 03 May 2016